2014 – The Year of Rae vs the Selfie

I have a little thing I do to keep myself in check. When I find myself judging other women for choices they make in their lives, I try walking a mile in their shoes to better understand their motivations.

Once upon a time I used to think that women who entered beauty pageants were vain, shallow and conceited. I realised I was making a sweeping generalisation. So I entered one.

Miss Whitsundays(That’s me on the far left – an average of 10 years older and 6 inches shorter than the other contestants)

What happened was I ended up gaining a bunch of confidence, had lots of fun, and made some great new friends.  The other women were in this competition for fun, prizes, to help launch a modelling career or simply because they were dared to by their friends. It was an experience I’ll never forget, and taught me a valuable lesson about judging people by my own pre-conceived notions of why they do what they do.

In 2013 I took my first selfie. I know that seems a little late to the party, considering it was also the year selfie was added to the dictionary, but I didn’t want people to think of me the way I thought about other people that took constant photos of themselves. Yes, there I was judging others again. Seeing daily updates of people’s faces in a scungy bathroom mirror had me questioning why they do this. Is it for attention? Validation? Are they hooked on how many “likes” they get? Does that give them the confidence boost they need to get them through the day? Or do they simply believe they are shit-hot and want to world to know it?

In 2014, I am about to find out. Rather than spamming my usual social networks with my mug in various states of attractiveness, I have started an instagram account called “@raevstheselfie” where I will upload one selfie a day, for an entire year, accompanied by the greatest number of hashtags possible. I am hoping by the time 2015 rolls around I will learn a few things – about others, but mostly about myself.

Let the narcissism begin.

5 thoughts on “2014 – The Year of Rae vs the Selfie

  1. That seems like a great/fun experiment. I never ever take selfies. I would love to hear about your results! Good luck! It should be fun!

  2. Very interesting. I want to agree with you so much on not judging a book by its cover but it’s just hard because to me a pageant isn’t as vain as a photo taken over and over of someone’s face time after time. I can agree that it’s easy enough to make an over reaching generalization about someone who does take selfies and why they do it and I think your on the right path to discovering that answer; And when you find it I look forward to hearing what that answer is. Good Luck

  3. Love it, makes me think of one of my resolutions for the new year: Never stop improving. Best of luck on your journey of selfies, I know I could never do it, or would lose interest in a month or so. I look forward to learning what you discover if you choose to share it with us all.

  4. Genuinely, this is such a refreshing read. Proud of the fact that I’ve lived the majority of my life as a attention seeker. Not the kind that posts “those Facebook status’s” like “trick me once fool on me. Trick me twice, fool in you” type stuff, prompting the “are you ok Hun?” Responses. But more along the lines of “look at me, look at me, look what I’m doing” kind of stuff. And in general I usually get the old ” look at this knob” kind of comment. But then these people meet me and on the whole tend to warm to me and give it the old “I thought you where a knob but your actually alright” kind of (mostly drunken) conversation. First impressions seem to ruin some possible relationships (I’m not just talking boy meets girl kind if stuff, but just in general). The old cliche’ “don’t judge a book by its cover” speaks volumes in this scenario.

    This is the first of your blogs I’ve read and really enjoyed it.
    One shall stay tuned for more (I say one as I’m trying to be the stereotypical English gentleman)

    Happy new year

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